the silver linings pixlet: self care sundays;

Despite everything I told myself about making more time for me this year, I haven’t been feeling so great over the past few weeks. I let my work, blogging and other deadlines build up again, to the point that my brain was beginning to clamour for a break – and then I made another attempt at cutting down my anti-depressants again. I’ve had a rough few days, although I’m determined to push through it this time (it turns out the panic attacks are pretty typical).

I’m writing this at the turn of a bank holiday weekend, kicking myself that I’ve done no work (although I made a couple of epic dinners, cleaned the bathroom and finally strung up those paper lanterns, so it wasn’t all Skyping my sister and napping on the sofa). There’s something pretty sad about feeling like a long weekend spent doing nothing is time wasted – I mean, isn’t that the point? – but if I want to make a success of my job, my freelance writing business and my blog I can’t ever properly switch off at weekends.

It all comes down to scheduling: and so, last weekend, I decided to schedule a day specifically for self-care. No work, no beating myself up – just things like:

Self-Care Sundays: Lush Intergalactic bath bomb
Self-Care Sundays: Lush Intergalactic bath bomb

Yeah, me and every girl with a blog – but baths, as the last sacred space into which you can’t (or, at least, really shouldn’t) take your iPhone feel like a proper indulgence and Lush’s playful, cruelty-free cosmetic products add to the fun. Given their one-and-done nature, if I’m using a Lush bath bomb it’s because I really want to treat myself – although this Intergalactic bath bomb was a gift, as part of my springtime “secret Santa” parcel from one of my fellow Crown and Glory Glitterati girls. Since I’d finally gotten around to taking back some product pots for recycling the day before I also had my favourite Catastrophe Cosmetic face mask to add to the pampering.

Self-Care Sundays: Lush Catastrophe Cosmetic face mask
Self-Care Sundays - UKLingerie pyjamas and zines

With the exception, perhaps, of freshly-laundered sheets, nothing makes you feel cosy and secure like new pyjamas. I’m not ashamed to admit that, on some of my worst mental health days, I’ve actually stopped by Primark on the way home to cheer myself up. That said, it does feel a little bit disrespectful to refer to my new “lounge suit” from LingaDore Lingerie* in the same sentence as an £8 Miffy shorts and vest set. LingaDore is made for a different class of lounging – for lazy days in a wicker chair on the patio, wrapped in a blanket with a really good book. You can find some of their luxurious collections at UK Lingerie.

Self-Care Sundays - Tea and Cake
Self-Care Sundays - Jadu Tea

Nothing says “comfort” like a good cuppa, and recently I’ve been getting to know luxury tea brand JADU*, based in Knightsbridge, London. JADU’s mission is to share the “magic” of tea – the brand name comes from the Sanskrit word for magic – and to bring a little bit of affordable luxury into what many people think of as one of the most everyday things that there is. From their English Breakfast tea, which is made from a combination of Assam and Sri Lankan black teas, to their innovative blends like the caffeine-free Rooibos Creme Brulee, what stands out about JADU is the attention to detail – the gold-embossed royal suede gift box is easily the most elegant way of getting your daily brew I have ever seen, although the silky individual tea bags I’ve been making my cuppas from aren’t far off. I’m not a fan of Earl Grey teas (although if anything would change my mind, it’s JADU’s sophisticated Mademoiselle Grey), so keep an eye out for a very special giveaway coming later this month.

Self-Care Sundays - JADU tea
Self-Care Sundays - JADU Tea

Although I’ll admit to spending a fair chunk of my self-care time catching up with the many wonderful articles I bookmark during the week on Instapaper, the nature of my work means I can’t properly get away from it unless I disconnect for a bit. I’m still swooning over my partner-in-Tumblr virality Sarah Maria Griffin’s engrossing and beautifully-written memoir about her move from Dublin to Los Angeles, Not Lost (she’s since moved back, but don’t let that put you off) as well as imagining myself becoming pals with just about everybody who’s written for the latest Ladyfuzz zine. Speaking of media made by women: Lyra Magazine sounds like just like the sort of publication Kaite and I used to dream up over the bar at Greyfriars, and I’m definitely getting in on the Kickstarter that will fund printing of its first issue.

How do you like to make time for yourself?

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    • May 2, 2016 / 3:29 pm

      Thanks my love, right back atcha! Heading over to check out your blog now, thanks for stopping by x

  1. May 3, 2016 / 12:04 pm

    You’ve been doing blogging for a lot longer than I have and I already feel the stress of getting things done.

    It’s important to give yourself a day off otherwise it can just build to a point where it’s too much. I’m glad you took a day to yourself, you can never beat a chill day, especially if it includes a bath bomb!


    • May 3, 2016 / 12:18 pm

      I know, right?? Flashback to wandering around Lush shopping for your secret santa going “I need something for a boy I don’t know very well”, hahahaha x

  2. May 3, 2016 / 12:12 pm

    I think scheduling time in for self-care is wonderful. I think folk can get so wrapped up in being busy that everything else gets pushed aside until it becomes overwhelming and you’re forced to stop. For me, my priorities changed because I had no option. But it’s made me realise that taking life at a slower pace is a positive. I know things are different for me but I tackle each day by making sure I schedule in time for things that are energy building for me– doing nothing being one of those things. I think it’s a strategy that could be adopted even if health wasn’t a challenge, by just making sure to balance what you do in a day by making time for things you enjoy/find relaxing. I think it comes down to living more mindfully, saying no when you need to and remembering to look after yourself 🙂

    • May 3, 2016 / 12:20 pm

      You’re so right, and that was my intention setting out on this year – I’m just rubbish at sticking to it! Once my new planner arrives I’m looking forward to just blocking time off, hahaha x

  3. May 4, 2016 / 4:38 pm

    we already pals, pal <3333333

  4. May 5, 2016 / 9:19 pm

    I’m glad you gave yourself a decent break Lis – I work freelance (as a musician) and it is so important to have breaks or you just reach burnout! I’m pretty bad at scheduling them in though :S

    • May 6, 2016 / 1:35 pm

      Thanks my love. Sounds like we both have to get better at it! x